I have never been so angry so early in the morning. Ok, yes I have, but it’s usually because my husband has awakened the baby while getting ready for work and/or I still haven’t had coffee.
On my local morning show, I saw a story about a woman, Caroline Berg Eriksen, who ‘started a firestorm’ about posting a picture of herself on Instagram four days after having her baby. She is a fitness buff/guru who runs a popular fitness blog, and worked out all through her pregnancy.
The only ‘firestorm’ I see here is the way she is being treated by other new moms. Every single article I found spoke about how the picture is “setting a bad precedent for new moms” and making new moms “more ashamed of their bodies needlessly”.
You know who is setting the bad precedent here for new moms? The new moms who are shaming her for her body. She looks fantastic, and she should – she was a fitness buff before and all through her pregnancy.
I am disgusted by what a double standard this is, and the ones who are decrying “body-shaming” are doing exactly that to her. By telling her she is making other new moms “feel ashamed”, they are trying to force her to feel ashamed. I am ASHAMED that this is happening to her.
I found comments, tweets, and even entire columns dedicated to telling her she should be ashamed. asking “How is this positive, what point are you trying to make here?” You know what’s not positive? YOU. By asking her that, you are doing to her EXACTLY what you claim she is doing to you.
I am not thin; I have not been for 15 years. At 250 lbs, not all of that is pregnancy weight (ok, none of it is). I was so elated to still look the same after I had my baby 6 months ago I wanted to shout it from the rooftops. And so should she. I take responsibility for the way my body looks, and I will feel good or bad about it on my own terms, and because of MY choices – not because someone else has a better body than me. I worked out before my pregnancy, but I was 250 lbs then too.
Our bodies change post-pregnancy, all of us; whether it is on the outside or the inside. I am sad that this woman is facing this backlash for having worked hard for the body she has.
We need to spend less time looking to others for our own happiness and for others to blame for our unhappiness, and more time being happy and proud of our sisters who do well.